Sorry, I guess I read it a little different. I read this... "I'm sure that you are surprised by his reaction, and he should know that his reaction is not what you expected. I would call him on his shield of anger and tell him that it is not a productive way to handle someone you love." as being pushy/forcefull. I am interpreting that at this time he feels pressured and frustrated. Mamalala wrote that he feels she is being demanding. To me that is a direct request to back off and give him some space at this time - not pursue more discussion.
