J - I agree about you holding on to the idea of her "coming home". Why on earth would you want her to "come home". Unless you have some MIB mind erasing device or a time machine at home what makes you think anything will change. At some point, like me and a lot of other people on this board you will realize that this D was a blessing. I know you think you love her, but like me I'm guessing you are "in love" with who you thought she was or hoped she was. I could never do the things that she has done to you and your daughter and Im guessing based on what Ive read either could you. Admit it! You are different. That is a GOOD thing. We dont hurt the people we so-called LOVE like that. You are now able to move on with your life and find someone that will truly know how to LOVE and RESPECT you. Life is too short to be with someone that doesnt WANT or DESERVE your moral and ethical values. Let her go. She needs to go find herself. Unfortunately, when the day comes when she realizes what she gave up it will probably too late. Same old story you've heard hundred times. Sad but true.
