He's going to try every tactic to AVOID. Last night was his "I'm-angry-and-I'm-not-talking-to-you-so-you'll-have-to-come-running-stroke-my-head-and-beg-for-my-attention." Don't buy it.
Don't be pissy or mean. Just be loving and steady about it. You're not going to live being neglected or ignored by the only person that is supposed to be loving you *that way.*
It might take you reaching the point of realizing that you WILL leave (you just don't know that yet or you don't want to accept it--I know that I didn't for a very long time.) Once you realize that you absolutely will have a sex life with a man you love, your mind becomes clear, the emotions level out, you find great resolve, and the ability to look him dead on and talk about the real truth. When he sees that in you, he will stop his avoidance tactics and he will learn to face this *with* you.
I don't want to paint a picture that requires that you be demanding per se, but you first must decide what your absolute musts are.
Don't let him slink away and brush things under the rug without following up on last night. Tell him that this is so important to you *because you love him so much.* I hope he considers reading SSM and the therapy you suggested. Maybe not today, but soon.
