I was referring to your spouse. Even when we change all the things about us that they believe to be wrong with us. It's possible they won't or can't change themselves. If they don't change then you end up right back to where you started. For a relationship to have problems you have to have two people doing things the wrong way. One is acting and the other is reacting. If one person changes how they act and the other doesn't change how they react you get status quo. Both have to change to get anywhere.
I agree that I have my faults. I agree that he can choose to see or not to see. I agree he did show a lack of commitment. I can't change him or what he chooses to see.
In the end, all we can change are ourselves and hope that they realize the need for them to change as well.
I still say that classes on relationships, communication, and the differences between the sexes should be taught in school. It would definitely cut down on the divorce rate and probably cut the rates of STD's as well.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
