Just another thought; I also find it difficult that this man who has been my frind and my partner has left me after my illness; I am still in the position when I may need more tests re cancer.....there has not been one mention of it for 6 weeks; as a human being how could this man, who has spent 10 years with me, just cut me off; no contact, no care. Surely people who end their marriage when there are children involved talk to each other? Does this mean that he is truly in love with OW? Mmmmmmmm, am confused and feel as if I am not getting it