That first thread of mine was a nightmare in my life - I started to get some strength and clarity by the second thread. I have to give much credit to the guy I work for. He wrote me some incredibly wise emails during that time. He said that my actions needed to be 100% about the kids, that I needed a clear and exact explanation for what's going on in their lives and that indecision would be like a knife in their hearts that keeps getting twisted. I needed to stay calm but firm, focus on the kids and everything else would eventually come to rest in a better place. It's pretty easy when you put what's in the kids best interests first.
What pisses me off most about your situation is the family law system in the state of New York. It's as if the divorce laws mutated over time to the point where there is no clear interpretation and it then becomes a legal "best interest" game to be played out over time for control of the children and the money. And what is with the Law Guardian?
I am so sorry Frank that you have had to endure this, but I believe you will soon start to reap your better years. It is ordeals like this, while not pleasant at the time, that end up making us better persons when we get through it.
