Husband did same thing. He was texting OW for hours while I was at work and while I was sleeping. Kids were lied to him by him telling them it was me. Kids would text me and I wouldn't answer them until the morning and thought that I loved my husband more than them because I would spend so many hours texting him. I never knew this was going on. Kids never said a word. I would ask my husband if the youngest had eaten, had a bath, or done her homework. His standard words were, "I don't know. I'm sure she did."
These are my kids though so it changes the dynamic some. He feels relieved that he isn't being a horrible father figure around them. He is embracing his life right now. Which is his right. All I have from him are broken promises and failed attempts at being a better person by him.
His OW is the recipient of a man who will not change and is content with being a failure. I deserve better than that. I will have better than that. The only way that will happen is if he has an epiphany and changes or I find someone who fits where my dreams are heading. Either way, I can only work on me.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
