Interesting for sure because physical contact is my love language. My husband however is a quality time person. His lack of a sex drive I believe pushed me to a point of lack of respect for him and a feeling of not being loved which flowed over into me not wanting to validate him or spend quality time. Funny thing is, I never left the marriage. I just hoped that it would eventually right itself after I had my brain surgery. That I would get skinny and feel better about myself and my husband would desire me and that in turn would lead to us spending more time together because I would have the energy and so on and so forth. He obviously didn't have the patience. LOL *shrugs* Nothing to be done about the past now though. I live for today and what I can become in my future.
I would definitely get an STD screen prior to having sex with her again. And learn from this. Find the book The Five Love Languages. It's a must read. Figure out what part you played in her straying.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
