PMA will come when you realize that you are helpless to control anything having to do with your husband. You can only control what you do and how you feel.
I wrote what pearl quoted before I found out my husband was with another woman, but what I wrote is still relevant. I do need to change. I was wrong about so many things in my relationship. I let past relationships determine how I was going to react in this one. I essentially pushed my husband away and into the arms of another woman. Now I can sit here and place blame, but in the end it still comes back to my husband chose to find his happiness elsewhere.
Now I can choose to remain the same and continue to get the same thing which is insanity or I can choose to change and grow. Where would society be if change and growth did not occur? We would all be swimming around in puddles of goo.
Change is one of the most difficult things in the world to do. Honestly, I do not believe my husband will change and be a better him. He got out of a bad relationship, but he isn't choosing to change the root cause of the perpetuation which is his life. He runs away and just ends up in another bad relationship never owning up to his mistakes and a lot of people are like that.
It took me 36 years to get to the point where I am that I can say that I can no longer be the person I have been. It only guarantees me future pain and I'm tired of hurting.
Find that PMA. It's there. You will live.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
