Hi Jill..I am so happy for you..I know the feeling of liking yourself more now..I too, have been pretty reserved and insecure..a few years ago as I lost weight I became more sure of myself..I wonder if that threatened my h in any way..but he always has let me do my own thing,so it shouldn't. I feel much stronger because of the s..my h did move out..he needed the space..so I respect him for that.. right now we are pretty much the same as the past 10 mon..friends..do family things..talk..but nothing as far as our m..I am hoping he is thinking about it..who knows, I know I will survive...keep doing your thing..it is working great for you. The weight thing is a bummer...I am on Weight Watchers...I feel like diets don't work...it has to be a life change..just like the rest of what we are doing..good luck in all you do!!!