I had to respond because my H walked away for the 2nd time because of this very issue...trust. I wish I had seen this post a few months ago. You are so right and very wise about it. It really helps me to see your viewpoint. Did you work on your issues by yourself or did you go to a C? I tried to do it alone, but obviously not lasting results. Again, thanks for the post...I needed to see something on this matter. ~~~Debi