Sadly in my sitch, they are both a detriment and a benefit. My children are great kids and he has said from day one that he didn't want to do anything to mess them up. Leaving to him means he doesn't have to worry. Although he doesn't realize the damage he did leaving and my children seeing that he left for the OW. It does help to an extent because now they know for sure it wasn't them that made him leave. Although, in a warped way it was.
So a damned situation either way!
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
