I'm sitting here in so much pain from being sun-burned!!
We've been here three years (Hawaii) and hadn't spent much time at the beach because my youngest wasn't ready for it yet. So, the last couple of weekends we've been going to different beaches, trying some snorkeling. Of course, when one of us goes out to snorkel, the other stays with the kids nearer to shore or on the sand.
We've seen such beautiful fish! It's so amazing swimming with schools of tropical fish. I never snorkeled until recently, and I'm so glad I did.
I have noticed that since my H dropped the bomb last year, and I got my butt in gear getting a life, I've become more outgoing! I don't care what people think of me, if you like me fine, if not OH WELL! I used to be SO insecure! But after forcing myself to change, I have found that I LOVE MY LIFE!! I love being independent, secure in my marriage, social, etc.
I've been at a standstill losing weight, still have forty pounds to go. Still walking every day. I'm going to try something else to kick start it again, maybe carbo-addicts? Not sure yet. Anyway, I've changed so much. I used to be so unsure of myself, insecure, etc. I'm still a bit insecure, but not at all like I used to be. I wouldn't take off my shirt at the beach, get naked in front of H, now I do.
Anyway, H and I had such a great time with each other and with the kids the other day after one of our snorkeling outings that I initiated an R talk. I THANKED him for dropping his bomb on me. It has actually made me a better person, a stronger person! I know that I am a great person, and if anything would ever happen to end our M, I'd be OK!! I told him that I think it was the best thing that happened to our M because it caused me to take a hard look at myself (not just at him) and I made some positive changes and now I am happier than I've been in a LONG time. The changes that I made just made H make the changes that I wanted him to make long ago! He now wants to spend lots of time with me, showers me with affectiion, etc.
I also thanked him for not walking out when he dropped the bomb. He had the chance to leave and not live at home during our "separation". I think that would have been the death of our M. Thankfully, he stayed in the house with us, and saw all of my changes. He also knows that changes I made were for me, and that I'm happy with my life now, I didn't do it all for him. But, it certainly helped save our marriage!
