You know darn good and well that FG is going to jump all over FB2's comments and not only echo them, but accentuate them a bit.
You've got the power to lead him, but need to get over your adversion to doing it. Would it help to think of him as suffering from "relationship blindness" or another sort of malady that keeps him from seeing the "right" thing to do and leading you?
Maybe a small mindset change in this direction is all you need?..but then again, WTF do I know? My XW had an affair and D'd me, so I'm probably not the sagest of advisors, now am I?
I agree w/Kerry's comment on your tone needing to be compassionate when talking w/H.
Again, if he was "seriously ill" wouldn't you be compassionate with him when you spoke and interacted?
Isn't "emotional retardation" a serious illness? Your H is suffering from it, isn't he?
