I am glad you will be seeing an attny. Think of it as an informational/educational meeting on finances, insurance, support, division and childcare issues. Nothing has to be decided, nothing has to be put in writing it is simply so you are aware of your rights and how to execute them in a fair and reasonable manner.
Your W seems to think she can call the shots when it comes to money and expenses and I think she will quickly learn she doesnt have that power - the laws of your state will dictate all of that in a clear and concise fashion.
I also would not tell your W you are seeing an attny at this time. Its none of her business how you handle *your* business and at this stage of the game you would be foolish not to educate yourself. I am not sure of the laws of your state but you may be able to initiate some sort of temp. separation agreement so all parties are protected financially and all things related to the children are clearly defined.
I met with 3 attnys before I found one I really liked and felt at ease with. Dont be afraid to ask as many questions as you want and dont be afraid to ask for a more clear definition of things if you dont understand.
