K, Ali and Kerry have taken the words right out of my keyboard!!! I'm more convinced that you need to take the lead in improving communication at this stage - no more criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. This seems to be the heart of the problem. You can turn this ship around K if you really want to and you will get patience, money, kisses and lots of sex.
And when you and H talk, try to just really *listen* without reacting negatively - as if you were getting valuable information from him - like reading between the lines - you say he does not communicate to you but he really does - its all there in the words, tone of voice, body language.
PS. That holy man is in such a beautiful place! I would go visit his cave just for the view.
