Thank you Lucky! It is nice to hear there is some hope!
I have talked about this with my H about twice a year since before we got married. I have tried so hard to be kind and loving in the way that I talk to him about it, always focusing on how much I wanted him and loved him. He says he knows and he's sorry and he'll try harder and he'll do better. But really, nothing changes. Until recently, after we ML, I would be happy again for almost a month, and then start to be mad, so then he would intiate and I would be happy again for a while. Now, I am angry almost every day. When H initiates I say yes and hate myself for it. It feels like pity sex, not the loving, connecting, fun sex I want and we need.
He has not read SSM, cause I haven't asked him to and cause he thinks our marriage is great just as it is. The good news is that I found a counselor right up the street that understands the principles in SSM. It's right on her website! So, I called her and am waiting for a call back and I am looking for an opportunity to talk to him about it.
