Still getting nowhere fast....

[lost-n-Iowa]

Bridge, thanks for the support. I think that I did do very good and even though I REALLY wanted to hear his voice and hoped it would say nice things to me, I did not respond. He did text me later last night to ask me if everything was okay. I had a hard time not answering with the NO ITS NOT...WHY WOULD IT BE.... Instead I did what you said, I shut the phone off until I had to turn it on to use as my alarm clock. There was no other text messages from him. I am feeling very lousy today because I did not get to talk to him and hear his voice because I do miss him, so this must be one of those "back sliding days'

Breakaway... that article is point on for things that I have seen in the past with my H and with people like my sister's BF. I think I will copy it to send it to her so she can read it too. The only thing that I didn't unserstand about the article was that at the bottom of the list it said that the cycle would start over at the top and begin again. Ok, then if I continue not to respond, then when will the cycle STOP. It did not say that eventually the vampire goes away or figures out that you will not ever respond to him again so he stops. That is a little confusing but I get the message anyway. Thanks for that bit of insight on it.

I contacted one of the girls that my H said had told him that I left a bar with another man last year and spent the night at this other man's house today. Come to find out, this girl has not spoken to my H for months and has not seen him in months either. She said that the only time that she seen me talk to this guy was the time that about 15 of us went to a bar one day and this guy was there and was talking to all of us but that he seem 'infatuated' with me and that she was there when I told him that I was married and not interested in him that way and he siad oh okay we can still be friends? and I had said yes. this guy shot on the same pool league that I did and the only other time that I ever seen him was through that when we shot against his team and one other time at a large local rodeo. Anyway, it made me feel better that this girl had not said these things to my H and that I had caught him in another lie.

I have a hard time comfronting people unless they confront me first. Then I will get right in there and defend or whatever I have to do. My H knows that I dont' usually confront people and he was probably banking on that. That I would not confront this girl and confirm his story.

Oh, well!! I am still trucking along and trying to get better everyday. I have made plans already for the next few weekends to go do something with my family or with friends, like riding horses and camping. I am GAL and doing well at it.