It looks like someone's been watching while daddy's been playing with his tools! I don't know if $250 is steep for a consult or not, but my initial consult was free and the retainer was only $2k (had I needed then). Maybe that's what I get for shopping at divorces-r-us clearinghouse.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
well just got off the phone with DB coach feel a little bit better about sitch. i have some better goals and 180s now i just need the oppurtunities to show some change, W quit calling and texting.
talked to W just casual conversation then she wanted to talk about custod again...YAY!... I tell her we should wait to talk about it till when she gets home she says wants to talk about it now so we can come up with Ideas. I kept trying to aviod it but she kept bringing it up so i told her that a 50/50 custody arangement was not going to work because the judge wont sign off on that due to our careers. I told her that my idea was that i got amaya for the school year and that she got her summers, everyother weekend, every other holiday, spring break (this is when she starts school of course). She didnt agree to it of course and i told her that we needed to come up with some type of agreement because i didnt want to have to go to court and make matters worse between us. She says that if we go to court she is going to win cause she is the mother and im in the military... i just told her that i would do whatever it takes in court to do whats best for my daughter, she then said if i use her alcholism against her that i would regret it... I didnt tell her i would use anything against her but that i would do whatever it takes and that i didnt want it to have to come to that for D sake... Well she got off the phone crying i told her that my intentions in the conversation where not to upset her and i wish she hadnt taken it that way. Everything was said in a polite tone by both of us neither one of us actually got mad we just made our points and that was it no fighting or nothing. Later that night i get this text...
W: I thought long and hard about our conversation this morning, u threatened to do whatever it takes, so everything we agreed upon up until now, is off. U claim u dont want to hurt me anymore, but that is OBVIOUSLY not the case. I will have my lawyer soon.
I only want what is best for our daughter, is the proper response. I did not choose any of this is another response for her, calm and non-threatening is the way you always speak to her, in an almost matter of fact pleasant way. kinda like ordering a sandwich.
Can you believe your wife missed your d "fixing" her bike, probably should have taken a picture and sent it to her, so she could see it. No note, just the picture.
Things will bottom out before they get better, hang on, it is a wild ride.
So i said what you said burt just told her that I'm just doing what i feel is best for D. Told her that a huge fight isnt what I wanted and that D didnt want that. and i left it at that nothing from her since and you know what i really am not bothered by that. Just concentrated on D and I, I'm not really all that concerned about what she is doing. I feeling better and D is happy so...
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
When she does call, and she will, remember, to act as if, fun and happy, way too busy. Going out tonight with the fellas, speak about what she wants to speak about and then end the conversation first.
this really really really sucks...