I'd definitely go for the dirty girl/sex toys route over the candles/romance. Everyone is allowed to enjoy candles/romance. I bet you even tried candles/romance. The presence/absence of candles/romance is NOT what is keeping her sexually repressed in the context of an M as a wife/mother.
And definitely do not skip the sex toys. Again, the eroscillator is a worthy investment, and far cheaper than a L or a C.
This is all great news. Pleased for you, but so confused, too...
Last I read things were going the D route; if you had to describe what most brought about the change of direction, what would it be? Would it be the Gucci-esque mindset you finally achieved or did your W also get a 2X4 to the head when you started discussing the true financial implications of all of this? Or, was it something else altogether?
Enquiring minds want to know!
In the meanwhile, keep it up -- so-to-speak...
-Alex
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Pup, here's wishing you the best of luck. Sounds like you and Mrs. Pup are not at the end of the rope at all. I know its a process but that's life - ups and downs. I love the idea about a bedroom do over. But I gotta say I think oldtimer is on to something. Early in my R with H I was not so interested in sex, but as I got older and more into my R, I find that I am way more open to it. In fact, I find ML in the bedroom routinely is ok, so so at times, but when H and I are naughty in different places, oh so much more exciting. Even in our separation, both H completely remember when we have been naughty. Great memories. She will love it. I say spice it up and enjoy. Forget about the traditional. While at the beach, flirt, and if the need strikes do something exciting. Will make for a good laugh later on.
Wow, just wow! I am so happy to read of your recent turn of events. You have a huge group praying for you here, and for your W to get it on Mothers Day weekend is such a blessing for you and your family, and also an inspiration for all of us dealing with fears and doubts. I've always read our posts with the utmost respect for your conviction, and now more than ever, I know all things are possible to those who truly believe.
This is all great news. Pleased for you, but so confused, too...
Last I read things were going the D route; if you had to describe what most brought about the change of direction, what would it be? Would it be the Gucci-esque mindset you finally achieved or did your W also get a 2X4 to the head when you started discussing the true financial implications of all of this? Or, was it something else altogether?
Alex,
Hey dude!! It's a great question. I would have to say that it was my becoming more Gucci-esque, my wife responding to that, and me sensing that this time she seems much more self-aware and sincere in her desire to try and make it work. I've always been willing to work at this; I'd just given up hope that my wife had any real sincere desire to do anything other than go thru the motions. Something is changing in her.
Thank you, Song. There is zero doubt in my mind that prayer is playing a huge role in my family right now. It was when I re-started praying DAILY for my marriage, and more selflessly for my wife's well-being, that something softened in her.
