So it's been a little over two weeks since I posted.

The in person visit I recently assumed never happened. What an effective lesson to me to not monitor, wonder, snoop, or over analyze every miniscule detail.

MC is in effect H's IC by his choice. I sit quietly.

He seems to be willing and "open" during MC and for a few minutes before we part company. He announced that he hasn't seen OW in person for 5 weeks, has told her that he won't see her (I guess until he "has decided what to do") and that he is getting "hammered on that side" so there is "no enjoyment happening there." I said absolutely nothing when I really wanted to grill him heartily.

He has invited me two places for the weekend. One date is a concert for which he bought tickets almost two months ago and he just invited me three days before the event.

It is incredible, sort of humiliating, and amazing that he is truly like a new "boyfriend" that you can expect nothing from nor make any demands. I believe it intellectually but it still shocks me that the books I have read about MLC have been accurate--it is way more interesting to read about being the spouse of someone in MLC than to actually live with this confusion.

BPretty

PS. If he were my boyfriend, I would dump him.