Peppermint sticks! Hadn't really thought of that but... As far as your thoughts re STBX, I consciously have no thoughts of trying to get back with her. We have a different kind of R now than we've had for years. I do what I do with her because I choose to do it, not because I'm obligated. She knows that anything I do for her or with her is on my own accord. She actually appreciates things now. But, she's still much the same person she was when we were together and I still see that loud and clear. She's still tied into the "Woe is me" worldview and still has difficulty seeing that her choices put her largely where she is today. She's not a person who can put the other person in a R on an equal footing with herself. Would I want to go back to what I lived in the last seven years with her? FORGET IT! But hey, in my subconscious who knows whats happening. I'm just content to have a cordial arrangement where we can have good family times together. Btw, the only woman prospect I've had I decided not to pursue because she was 20 years younger than me, never married, no kids and it just didn't seem like a good idea to me, so I moved on. I've got some self control! Now where do you buy those peppermint sticks?
