Pup, here's wishing you the best of luck. Sounds like you and Mrs. Pup are not at the end of the rope at all. I know its a process but that's life - ups and downs. I love the idea about a bedroom do over. But I gotta say I think oldtimer is on to something. Early in my R with H I was not so interested in sex, but as I got older and more into my R, I find that I am way more open to it. In fact, I find ML in the bedroom routinely is ok, so so at times, but when H and I are naughty in different places, oh so much more exciting. Even in our separation, both H completely remember when we have been naughty. Great memories. She will love it. I say spice it up and enjoy. Forget about the traditional. While at the beach, flirt, and if the need strikes do something exciting. Will make for a good laugh later on.
