I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow...!

[1853dave]

Hi everyone -

Yes, I am keenly aware of the MIL situation. I have read this elsewhere on the site too.

I doubt she (W) will find out anytime soon. She isn't speaking to her mother right now anyway, and MIL knows that it would probably bother the W that I visited her - although, she has no problem when I take the kids there with me. I wouldn't lie about visiting her if my W asked me, but I won't advertise it either.

Interstingly, we only talked a little bit about my situation - we spent most of the time watching PBS and discussing other stuff.

Thanks for jumping in Sandi - I expect up and down days, because I have been going through that cycle... I think there have been fewer down days lately - maybe I am just not reacting to them like I used to. I am finding that if I keep myself in a good mood, regardless if things don't quite go my way, that my W seems happier also. For instance, if we depart on a good note, isn't it better than departing on a more somber, less happy note, regardless if my day with the kids has been cut short or not? In other words, even if I feel short-changed, I still need to make that effort to appear ok with it all - so that the next contact I have with her will be fresh and pleasant, with no "leftovers".

I've gotten to the point where if nothing bad happens, then it is a good day. If something actually good happens, then that's a bonus!

I hope we all have a good day today!