Have any of you experienced this with your x's ow? Is this normal for them to go "crazy" over the other person?
They are in their own little world. I am experiencing something similiar right now. My stbxh is so far up the GF's butt that I don't know if he will ever see the light of day again. I have been dealing with this for some time now but it is getting worse.
As hard as it is for me to not step in and say something, I am letting my girls handle it the way they want.
Last week my stbxh called the day he was supposed to have the girls for visitation. He told me he didn't have the money to buy dinner for them. Yes, the GF was fixing HIM dinner and he could have very easily fixed a couple plates and taken them to the girls. (He still has his apartment until the end of the month, then he moves full time in with GF) The girls will not have anything to do with GF. He tells me that is too much trouble. WTH? It is too much trouble to feed his kids? I told him not to worry about it that the girls could stay home and I would feed them. So, they stayed home and didn't see him.
Yesterday I called him to find out the arrangements for this week as I had to go to the grocery store and he said unless they came to GF's house then he wouldn't be having them again. I told him no problem they were fine at home.
He is supposed to have them this weekend. They will spend each day with him but will probably come home to sleep. That is fine with me. The big problem I have right now is Saturday is his birthday. The girls wanted to take him out to dinner for his birthday. His response "Well, GF wanted to do something for me for my birthday so I don't know what I'm doing yet?" So you see, he is giving up another day with his kids to be with GF. Evidentally, she is more important.
He makes me so mad but there is nothing I can do about it. Just as you can't do anything about your xh. All we can do is be there for our kids when they need us. You need to let your son handle the situation with his father though. Don't step in. As much as it hurts us to watch our kids go thru this, we need to let them do it their own way.
