I've been re-bombed and I'm not sure what to do. A few weeks ago my H told me that he loves me but is not in love with me. In some respects I think this is progress. In some respects I think it was his way of telling me that he wanted to fix things. He said he didn't want to leave me, he wants us to work. He thinks we can work, he even thinks those feelings can come back again. It's just been so long since we've actually felt any romantic feelings for one another. I'm wondering if I should leave. I don't know if I have the energy for this. Even when he told me, I wasn't that upset. It was like he was confirming what I already knew.
The positives:
- He says he wants to be in love with me
- He says he wants us to have a fulfilling relationship: spiritually, romantically, emotionally, etc
- Ultimately, I would like our relationship to last and be fulfilling

The negatives:
- He doesn't want to do counseling, and thinks we should be able to do this on our own - I think we should get a counselor
- I don't have it in me to actually "work" at this - I'm weary and debating leaving because I just don't see this getting any better
- I don't know how to have a fulfilling relationship (and I don't think he does either)

What am I missing? Is there anything I should do in this instance? Is there anything I can do?

Me: 34
H: 39
M: 7 yrs
H A 12/05-8/07

If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley