PM Thread #5 - Hope new plan works

[Can it work]

Wise words PM

I find it hard to talk to my MIL sometimes. I know that in an ideal world she would love for us to get back together but like yours I don't think she believes that will ever happen now. It's up to us on our own to keep the hope alive I'm afraid. Not even my own family believe my W and I will ever get back together. I think my sister is coming around to my way of thinking a bit more. I've told her that I'm going to keep trying to rekindle my M because I'm not ready to move on yet but have accepted that if it never works out again that I'm still going to be ok. She can see the sense in that and agrees with me that it's a sensible course of action. It all helps I suppose.

Anyway, congratulations on all the work opportunities you've managed to find yourself this past year. Do I read correctly that you've actually managed to land yourself a book deal? If so, I'm completely envious. Mind you, I'd really need to come up with an idea for a book before I could approach a publisher. I'll get there eventually I suppose. The weather's so wonderful here at the moment though that I'm finding it a struggle to sit in the house at nights. I'm out running and cycling as much as I possibly can. I think I'm feeling the fittest I've been in my whole life and it's fantastic.

I agree with you on how your H's new R will never work out if he doesn't include OW in his life. Do you think it's something he hadn't really thought through and said to the counsellor on the spur of the moment? Surely even someone who isn't thinking straight could see that it would never work like that? Maybe he was just getting on the defensive in case you found yourself another man. I know for myself that's one of my biggest fears right now. Since I have Wee Man less than my W, if she got herself another man he'd effectively see Wee Man more than me and that would be unbearable. I know that it's a realistic possibility though. I think if I was with someone else and I told my W that I wasn't going to introduce her to Wee Man, I would almost expect her to do the same. At least in the short term. It strikes me that this is the strategy your H may be going for. Again though, I could be completely wrong. That's purely based on my own fear of some other guy having a bigger part in my son's life than I do. It's terrifying.

Aside from all that, you're still doing great PM. Keep on fighting the good fight.

Kev