I know that we all have real life to deal with, too. Keep the bedroom a place of sanctuary, fun, and fulfillment. IF there is a TV in there, get it out now!
Actually, our bedroom is TRASHED. Our whole HOUSE is extremely messy, but our bedroom is the worst, and it's always been a sore spot with me. She had even promised to clean it in exchange for cutting back on her work hours. She cut the hours, and after spending one afternoon getting started on the bedroom, never touched it again. I was going to help, but it's one of those "I need to go thru everything" things, so she was going to sort, and I was going to do the heavy lifting and cleaning.
Remains to be done, but NEEDS to be done.
Puppy
Do it! One thing that DH has taken note of is that our room is always picked up--something I never did in the past. The bed is made every morning, nothing is laying around. Even right now, with having the seasonal clothes totes out, they are stacked neatly in the corner while I am working on flipping the closets around. The master bathroom sink is not cluttered with stuff--I wipe it down and put everything away every morning when I am done getting ready. I always have a candle or wax tart burning in there--it is safer than putting it on the dresser-and you can smell it in the whole room.
Yes, I do still have my books next to the bed, but now they are in a tote and not all over the floor and the nightstand. The room is not big enough to add a bookcase.
Tell her that you want your bedroom to be a place for you two to retreat together from day to day life. Tell her you want to work with her to make it happen. Do not ask her, tell her. Get it done and together go buy new bed linens that you both like--make it a reward for a job well done. Consider a complete remodel--paint is cheap and moving the furniture is just sweat equity for a better marriage. Change the curtains--even if you just swap them for a pair somewhere else in the house. the important thing is--do it together. It is an investment that you BOTH atrre making for a new beginning.
Living God's blessings with grace and digntiy~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
