The only thing I would suggest is that you review/reassess/reevaluate the "frame" you're going to use when you bring it up.
My good friend A is having a very important meeting today. Yesterday we talked about the last such meeting he had. He went in to it, full of p*ss and vinegar, to explain to his superiors just what they were doing wrong, how they were missing the big picture, and how they were messing with his mojo as a result.
Ummmmm -- maybe not the best approach.
Think about this -- you're not doing this for YOU. You're not doing this for REVENGE. You're doing it for the GOOD OF THE TEAM. And for YOUR D. Let the First Shirt and/or the Commander point out that it's against regs, that it's immoral, yada blah. You're just about the RIGHT and the WRONG.
"I have to confess, sir, I've been very reluctant to bring this up the chain, and I've sought a lot of counsel on this meeting. And I'm still not comfortable with it. Because as far as I'm concerned, sir, WAW can be transferred to The Rock to pound sand. But this isn't about me. It's about the squadron/wing/whatever -- Umpty-Ump people know it's going on. It undermines Colonel Schmedlap's reputation. It undermines confidence in the Senior NCO Corps. And at home, sir, it undermines my D's belief in marriage, in honor, etc. etc. Frankly, sir, I'm not even sure I'd bring this to your attention if I were single or if we were married without kids. But it's gone on so long, and Tech/Senior/Master/Whatever Sgt WAW is so blatant about it......"
In other words, make it about a problem that commanders have to deal with -- not about an unhappy NCO who's (a) retiring and (b) getting cuckolded (from commander's POV).
