Oh Pup! You deserve this so much. I thought of something when I was reading Old Timer's post. A female does need that flirty fun excitment. She does need variety. And.....I hope this doesn't gross you out when I say this, but when I went into my "crazy days" with OM, the thing I liked was that I could be that "dirty girl" that Old Timer was talking about. I could never be that with my H. I don't know why I could not reach that place with him, but it was like I could not get past that proper Christian wife and mother role and well........you can prabably guess the rest.
I hope that this time will take for you two. A lot of prayers have gone up and it sounds like she is serious this time. I thought you told us that she has just lost all attraction for you! HA! Doesn't sound like it to me. That is great.
Keep the love young and fun and the sex dirty and maybe that is the magic formula for a good marriage. Well, kind of just kidding there b/c you know me, I believe we have to fit God into that formula, too. Anyway, realy happy for you two.
Love, Sandi
Sandi, thanks for the post! She did even use the words "dirty girl" during LM Saturday night, so I think you're all onto something here! Believe me, I can definitely do that.
She told me something when we were talking into the wee hours, and your post reminded me. I said "I thought you were no longer attracted to me?" and she said "I realized that it wasn't YOU that I grew unattracted to; it was 'The IT' that I was unattracted to."
"The It" is what we call this "thing" that's always reared its ugly head between us. This place we get to where the walls go up, she stops responding, I stop pursuing, and the cycle spins downward, down the drain and into resentment. It is THIS ONE THING that has really been the ONLY thing major we've ever had as a problem in our relationship, and it's what we need help pushing thru the next time it comes to pay us a visit. Because as I'm as I'm sitting here, it WILL pay us a visit again, in regular cycles.
