Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

H does not know that I know he is going places with her. In fact, he doesn't know I have any idea he's still in contact with OW. I believe he is meeting her for lunch and think that's just the 2 of them. The party/movie was a threesome (she brought a friend). I'm not sure about the other movie. I believe he is meeting her today and taking her gifts he bought while out shopping with the boys for Mother's Day. He told the boys he bought them for me, but changed his mind and may take them back. I agree with you, I don't think this is acceptable. I'm beginning to wonder why I even want to try this - maybe it is truly not meant to be. On the surface, we are getting along and he continues to be affectionate, throw in ILY every now and then, but knowing what I know is beginning to make me sick to my stomach. What kind of person can do what he's doing? I know he's MLC, but it's inexcusable. I need to think about it today, but I may have reached my breaking point. Maybe he needs to go and be free to see if she truly is his "soulmate," free to ruin her M too, free to MLC all he wants fully separate from me. Then if in the future he decides he wants to come back, I'll just have to see. It's humiliating to me for him to lay in bed hugging me, ML, knowing he's planning to meet up with her and give her gifts he bought with our children, courting her. I'm not sure I can deal with so much deception and blatant disrespect. I have a lot to think about today....

Now even more to ponder. H just called and said instead of going wherever he was going tonight he wants to pick up the boys. And he wants to know if MC can see him individually today or ASAP. My take - he wants to talk with MC about how to break the news to me that he's done. Yes, I'm guessing. Probably shouldn't try to anticipate. But given how the ILY's have diminished, the gifts for OW, etc. and just sensing his mood, I bet I'm right. Only other thing could be if he wanted to try to figure out how to work on M and I can't see that being the case if he's still involved with OW. Seems like he'd break that off first? Anyway, I don't want to have expectations, but don't know how to stop the mindwheels from churning.

Guys - please keep me, H and our M in your thoughts and prayers today. I feel something coming.