My wife called me this morning to say she was coming around with some food for my son who is staying this evening.
I believe she is really coming around to sort the money issue out which is stated above. She is saying the outstanding amount should mostly be paid by me because I earnt 5 times more than her over the period this money was paid. Therefore, in her eyes she feels I should pay the lions share of the debt.
As it was her decision to end the marriage this bill is a by-product of that decision as it is a joint childrens claim that needs to be paid in full before she can claim as a single parent.
My quandary is this - As a 'nice guy' I would probably pay a larger percentage of this bill. On the other hand do I say to her "I am sorry, but you need to pay half of this debt".
This is a moral dilemma for me and I do not know the best way to play it, as in my current mental state I still have problems fully detaching, therefore I am concerned about upsetting my wife. Should I do the right thing or is this a test by her to see what she can get away with. She has threatened to offset my monies from the sale of the house until my son is 18 if I procede with me saying she should pay half of the debt.
Please help as she is coming here in 1 hour and I need to know what is the best approach for me to set a boundary, or to negociate as a couple?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
