Read a lot of your thread this morning, breakaway. Think it was really interesting to read about your H`s parents at the football game and their ongoing negativity towards players. I know that constant rant-my parents did it, particularly my Mum about every body and anybody on and off the football pitch. Put me clean off football for life!
And, of course, it`s strikes at deeper issues too.
Of course, our parents have a huge impact on the way we turn out. My FIL is and alcoholic and was a wife beater. And, while I can`t stand the man, I am finally begining to see he too is carrying the burden of previous generations and that the pain he has inflicted is because he hadn`t the strenght, wisdom and awareness to break that cycle.He too is a victim. Kinda helps in terms of forgiving him.
Also, have you read any of Melanie Beatties stuff?Co dependent Wife, Co Dependent No More. Both very useful for unhooking from the Crazy Dance with a partner.
Not sure if my H`s PD is-if any-possibly Passive Aggressive though as his brother went to therapy for this too.
