I told him that he was going to have to file as I wasn't the one wanting the divorce and that when he did file it was to be because he was in an adulterous relationship. I am a Registered Nurse and most definitely have a job with benefits. He got fired from his back in February and hasn't found another one since. He does computer odd jobs on the side. He was pleased that in April he was able to make $600. I made that working Easter Sunday. He doesn't have any of my income. He is living on his own at the gym. He is paying the two credit card bills that are in his name, his new to him truck payment, the money he borrowed from his dad to move out, his food, the difference between the electric and water at the gym where he is staying, and I am sure my ex bestfriend is slipping him money and paying for all their dates. \:\) He's got it good. No reason in hell to want to come back. Being with me means being responsible, being a father to 3 children, and working on a relationship. Right now, he has no responsibilities, goes out partying, hangs out with the guys at the gym, and with the OW at concerts. It's laughable, but it's a life he is happy with. He was telling me repeatedly how happy he is now and how he hated showing me how happy he was when I would attempt to talk to him prior to the huge blowout. His final parting words to me as the OW drove off with him in her car was that he left because he was going to kill himself because of me. Melodramatic much? I admit to not being as interested in his interests as I could be. I admit to asking him millions of times what was wrong and what we could do to fix things and him coming up with a million and one reasons and I was never one of them until he decided he had someone else and he was ready to go.

"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."