It sounds like the conversations have softened, so that's great! I'd say keep doing what's working. Keep a journal or use these posts for your journaling, for a record of what you try and how it works or backfires.
I know it's hard to be patient, and for 11 months you've been working on yourself. It may take a lot longer but if you believe in your M and feel you're making some progress, just keep it up!
