I'm sorry to hear that. I read your 2nd thread too. I guess all you can do now is get on with your life, as you've talked about. Take care of your kids, reassure them the situation has nothing to do with them, and take good care of yourself. The A will have to run its' course... I've read 6 mths on average and then it's done. Be the best you you can be, and if/when H contacts you, let him be amazed at your transformation..!
