I think if they asked you to give him the paperwork then it is his mess. You may want to ask your L's opinion and maybe she can run it by another L for you. I don't know why these idiots do what they do but it certainly doesn't make our lives any more fun!
Just like my marriage I have looked at what I can do. I have done what I can and faced the facts that this is the way it has to be. I can work on rebuilding my name. I am keeping the house. Really for the best since it would probably cost more for a rental big enough for the 5 of us.
Hang in there, you are doing a great job.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory