I have really appreciated the time that you have put into your posts. I have been in real trauma about these orders; it has been a very difficult decision in both cases. I do honestly believe though that I will risk incurring his wrath to protect my child, my mother and myself. he has not shown himself to be a physically abusive person. the problem is that he relies on having control through the power of his words and the command of language. When his words are diminished through someone meeting him on equal territory his anger needs to still be released and it is then that I am dealing with an unknown quantity. Yes, I love my husband but he, at the present time, does not show any indication of being the man I married. There is no care or love for me; that is apparent being directed elsewhere. I am not trying to exacerbate the sitch but I need to stand up to him and give him some tough love........
