Wow... have you checked out "BPD Central" ? Another support site for family members who live with a person who has PD. Keep in mind that a person can have both a drinking problem and a PD. My H has 100+ days right now, attends AA and church and is in IC for PTSD and ad PD. It has been many moments of clarity and recovery with occassional setbacks. I personally don't know if I can do it myself. His IC seems to think that he can help us both. It scares me. But don't let me scare you. You must enjoy the "firsts" - they are stepping stones to something greater - and I am getting a glimpse of greater - this is how my H started his change.
Keep talking - you are not alone in this journey - you have sisters and brothers along the way.
