No one's advocating "orders." Feelings DO die from no-contact, and what I'm advocating is trying to get no-contact via aggressive exposure, since she is SO headstrong in her unwillingness to end it (even tho she admits it's destructive for her).
It's not the strong boundary that makes feelings die. It's that continued contact PRECLUDES feelings from dying, physiologically, so that the sooner you can separate the addict from the source of their addiction, the better chance you have -- in my opinion.
