True Love or True Fog? Changing Forums

[Silver Fox]

Well, H is pushing now. Here's his email sent today:

I haven't heard from you about meeting this week. As it turns out, my Friday interview got moved to Monday so I couldn't have done it tomorrow anyway. My meeting with the bankruptcy attorney is finally going to happen Wednesday. Unless you object, I would like to come over Wednesday afternoon after it is done. I need to know what offer--if any--you want me to have for my attorney to see if we can resolve this. I am meeting with my attorney Thursday to either put that offer together or figure out how to proceed without one.

Thanks again for the cooperation you have shown over the last few weeks.

"Proceed" without an offer? How does that work exactly?

Anyway, here's my reply:

Thank you for the quiche. We went out after the show but it was nice to have it over the weekend.

I will be very interested in hearing what the bankruptcy lawyer says so Wednesday is fine. Please make sure he knows that 3 of our credit cards (and your truck) are in my name and if I choose to let you take on all the debt - how will I get my name removed so my credit is not affected? Please take lots of notes so I may share the info with my lawyer.

You might want to hold off on that meeting with your attorney. I had the house appraised last week but I won't have anything in writing until next week. Also, I'm still considering your offers and as this decision is going to affect me for the rest of my life I will not be pressured or rushed. I have my own terms that I am finalizing and I need to meet with my lawyer as well.

If you're in town, I will be staying at school late on Tuesday. I'm sure the dogs would appreciate you letting them out and feeding them.

See you Wednesday.

So I guess it's all business now. Bring it on. He's made up his mind, he's not coming back. The OW is his True Love (after I was for 24 years of course). And even though he knows very little about the D process he's determined to plow ahead.

It's been 2 years. I've DB'd for myself and for H, I've been patient, I've been friendly, I've gone completely dark, I've waited for the A to burn itself out. Now I realize the one thing I haven't done is to completely LET GO. The biggest 180 I can do or that I even have left now is to agree to this D.