Ring is a really tough question, and I think the answer has to be personal.
You have to do what you feel suits your feelings and emotions. It can be a bit painful sometimes looking at that ring and knowing you are still dedicated to your vows, and feeling that your S is not currently dedicated to those vows. However, it can also be strengthening - a personal declaration of your feelings, that you are not giving up.
Dont worry about the message either sends to your spouse. If they ask, you dont have to answer, and if you want to answer, you answer honestly:
"I still wear my ring because I am still dedicated to my vow and our R. I understand that you are not it the same place right now but I cannot let that alter my (feelings, commitment, whatever word suits)"
"I took my ring off because at this point in our R, while I am still dedicated to our M and would like us to resolve our differences, it is a symbol of our united commitment, which is not an honest reflection of the current state of our M. If and when that reflection is accurate again, I will wear it proudly."
Wearing a ring for your commitment is not fake. Taking it off for fear of what others say/do/thinks is much more fake.
Do what reflects you.
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