She has been expressing doubts for about a week now of "What if we're throwing it all away?" and "What if we wake up one day and realize we threw it all away?" and such, and we talked more about that. About what a great friendship we have, and what a great family we have, and that it was just this "IT" (that's what we call our issue -- "The It") that we can never seem to get past. We talked openly and honestly about our fears, our fears that each of us would go back to the way we were before, and that our MARRIAGE would go back to the way it was before. She was (and has been recently) more introspective than I've ever heard her, and talked about her need to deal with her issues and her demons. She actually WANTS counseling. She asked, "Why is it that we can find thousands of dollars to pay people to help us get divorced, but we can't find hundreds for people to help us stay MARRIED?"
Well, wasn't that pretty much her doing? I thought she wasn't into getting IC and MC? If she is, then I'm sure your M can/will be saved. If not, then I think this will be just more of the same stuff you've already gone through. I mean she has to really work on herself and the marriage, not just say the right stuff. I think you should have cautious optimism, and I do hope she will follow through and do what needs to be done to save the M. I mean I've always known that she'd regret it at some point; I know you think that too. Karen
