Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Had lunch at home with H. Went OK. Somehow the conversation got into seeing older men(50+) in board shorts/t shirts and Vans..nothing we usually see here in Colorado, but I noticed a lot in San Diego. H said he always wanted to dress like that-he thought it was cool. ..So now he's into HipHop/Rap music, clothing styles for SoCal guys..he'd thinking of giving up golf.

Just a lot of weird lifestyle 'trying on" going on lately. Not alot of mention of the OW..I did ask if he went biking on Saturday alone and he snapped that he'd already answered that( How could he when I specifically never asked until this afternoon? What reality is he living in?)..so it was tense/quiet for a minute or so..then we switched subjects.

I asked H if he still wanted to cook together sometime(something his therapist had suggested we do once a week long ago..)-he said he hadn't really thought about it but was game. So we'll see if these activities(supposed to have a 'fun' dinner once a week after communication class and talk once a week as homework for this class)maintain our 'friendship' and ease the tension that crops up between us periodically...

Onward and onward..and onward...