Rob, I swear, sometimes it's just uncanny how much your comments relate to exactly what I'm going through at a given moment. Today is my S12's birthday (gasp...he's almost a teenager) and that, combined with Mother's day, seemed to have made for an emotional weekend for B. On Saturday she tried to lure me into her tension after handing me a gift for my S12 - I didn't say anything when I accepted the gift for him - I just looked at it - and it prompted her to snip at me - so I just stayed calm, didn't play into her game, and just took my baby boy inside
Over the weekend, there was more of the same - and she actually called me five times yesterday - rather than just responding by texts to my texts about S2 (who came down with a fever while with me on Saturday). I have S2 home with me today - as he was still a bit under the weather yesterday - and so I'll be heading out tonight to surprise my S12 and take him out for ice cream after his soccer practice. When talking about today B suddenly started telling me about all the issues going on at her job - stuff that she hasn't talked about with me for months - layoffs, firing people "for no reason", etc - and using it as an excuse for not being able to pick up S2 earlier than usual so that I can head out to see my S12 tonight...She even tried to make some comment about how it would I should realize that it would affect me if she lost her job...to which I said nothing, and simply asked to speak with my baby boy instead.
She's trying a new approach to manipulate me - I can see that pretty clearly - though I am just not interested in playing along at all. It's just too obvious that she's trying to get something...in some respects, I'm wondering if she's finally starting to see that maybe I'm not the source of all her issues/problems...though the idea of reconciling with her just makes no sense to me at all.
It will be nice to reach a point where I can relax more. Like you, Rob, I'm not putting much stock into the small changes she's showing until they become consistent...
