Oh, he's still drinking, but he's trying to "watch it." Okay, H. I can tell you from reading back through my journals that his abusive cycles come and go and he drinks all the time, so the alcohol is not making him mean. Sometimes he's mr lovey dovey drunk. blech. But he is drinking a lot less...but still every day.
Anyway, he gave me a card yesterday and said he "is ready to reach healthy marital goals." A very un-H-like thing to say. He's all about sweeping it under the rug and pretending like everything is super. So today I asked him to read the Stosny book Love Without Hurt. He was very uncomfortable about it, but he said yes. Took it with him for the day.
So I see the beginning of him finally being willing to admit to and take some responsibility for his behavior. I don't know if he can follow through. But this is all a first. He's finally surrendered somewhat. I am learning to be encouraging while maintaining my own healthy boundaries. Whew.
Oh, and he quit taking his anxiety meds a week ago. So I have that going for me. ;P
