That is quite a story, one that I can really relate to in a couple of different ways. You might think I am sick, but I find it comical that your XFIL on his deathbed expressed remorse for what he did and hopes that he and his XW will be reunited in Heaven! LOL Well, that certainly is an arrogant prosumption, thinking he is going to Heaven to begin with and not being able to apologize to his XW on her deathbed a couple of years prior to that. No sir, what you have there is a guy scared to go to Hell and he is trying to make amends "half-heartly" I might add before he joins the ranks in the infernal regions. He is no more sorry about that than the man on the moon. Selfish to the very end is what he was, thinking only of himself. If he truly felt that way, he would have made things right with that poor woman before she died. Anyway, I hope someone packed a lot of big time sunblock for that old boy, he is probably needing it about right now.
BH, How do you know for sure how he felt?? Some things are better left unsaid.
Luke 6:37-38
Trapt, buddy, I don't know anything for sure, except death and paying taxes, but I know a load of B.S. when I see it and hear it. I don't mean to sound like an uncaring ass, because I promise you, I am not that way, but I believe in accountability, something we have forgotten in our society. If someone really felt the way that gentleman felt, then saying before staring at the grim reaper would have been more appropriate. I just believe those were the words of a man afraid of meeting Hell's fire for his sins, a fear that is genuine I might add.
Well, I'm in no way defending what he did. I guess I find it sad rather than comical. I too belive in accountabilty, but it's not my place to tell somebody where they are headed as far as the afterlife goes.
Either way it's sad that it took that for him to admit he had made an awful mistake.
Well, I'm in no way defending what he did. I guess I find it sad rather than comical. I too belive in accountabilty, but it's not my place to tell somebody where they are headed as far as the afterlife goes.
Either way it's sad that it took that for him to admit he had made an awful mistake.
I agree, its terribly sad and tragic, but it is what it is. As far as telling someone where they go in the afterlife, I'm not telling anyone anything, the Bible is pretty speific about that.
It seems as though many of us here tend to make an assumption that our WAS's are living it up as happy as can be.
For all we know that man could have been living in his own personal hell for years over what he had done.
Who knows what keeps them from trying to make things right. After speaking with somebody close to me that had gone through a similar ordeal. My guess would be fear, guilt, and for some pride.
Jack, it sure does! I don't feel that I was judging, I was giving a personal opinion. I also gave my personal opinion about where he is today, I might be wrong, everyone can be, most of all me, but I base my opinions on personal experiences. Are the 100% correct? No way! I would argue though that they are more often right than wrong. Again, just my opinion.
Ok guys lets not get into a religion discussion because they are not pretty. Getting back to my sitch...;) I do believe that my xh is lost in love, lust or something. My son asked him to borrow 30 to buy me a mothers day gift, (which he didnt have to do but he wanted to), and my xh told him to come get it Sunday morning no problem. My son went Sunday but they were not home so my son called him Sunday evening and my xh told him he "didnt have the money". Now I find it hard to believe since he got paid 6 days ago. Why would he tell son that morning yes and then that evening no. I think the gf had something to do with this. I could be wrong but he switched his mind awful quick. He told son he didnt get paid until Thurs., when in fact he just got paid a few days ago. What is your all's take on this. Not that it matters for me, I hate that son worked up enough courage to ask only to be told yes and then NO. My son is afraid to ask him anything in fear of abandment, I believe. So it took courage for him to ask and he got disappointed. He said he immediately told his dad "thats ok forget it", in a nice tone. My aunt called me today and said son asked her for money. It just breaks my heart. He is so caught up with this woman. I have never seen him act so crazy. He is spending every dime he can get on her. Have any of you experienced this with your x's ow? Is this normal for them to go "crazy" over the other person?
Guys I cant help but ask questions, it is something new everyday. I am going on with my life. I am starting to enjoy life again. I am happy most days. I think I am doing good for being 7 months into this mess. You all may not think so, beacause when I post I only talk about xh, but I have a life, really I do. When I find the time, I am going to try and find a counselor.
He is so caught up with this woman. I have never seen him act so crazy. He is spending every dime he can get on her. Have any of you experienced this with your x's ow? Is this normal for them to go "crazy" over the other person?
Bwahahahaha!! Are you kidding Sunshine? It's very normal. Why, it's so normal it's .........normal!!! Our H's think they're doing something wild and different and the sad truth is they're following a very predictable script. Ah, if only they knew.....
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
