It seems that you intend to live in your sexless marriage even if your H will not work. His actions and words are truth -- He isn't going to work. Yet you still hang on.
It is OK if you decide to stay in the marriage. The first step, whether you stay or leave, is to work toward acceptance of what IS. As it stands, you are not going to have a sex life with your H no matter what you do.
It is time to accept.
And, it is time to ask yourself if you are going to live without sex, or if you absolutely must have it. If the latter, then it is time to shake up your current situation to make yourself available to someone who wants to have love and sex with you.
Does this rationale work for you? What are your obstacles?
