No you can't figure it out. Trying to rationalize the irrational is impossible. You don't ever want to be where he is mentally. It's a terrible place. He can't live that way forever.

It's sounds like he is on his way down. How far down does he have to go to hit bottom? Who knows? It can't last forever though, and we will never be able to imagine what it's like or figure it out.


Don't stand still.