Lost- How did your weekend go? Please dont give up. I know you are hurting but some where inside you will find the strength to get thru all of this. God doesnt give us more than we can handle. It may be hard to see that right now, but I believe it. I hope you are doing well and that you had a good weekend.
still rolling along the same. She seems to be getting angrier by the day. I really feel like I should be handling this better after almost 5 months. MHP i have been watching your thread daily as it really seems to mirror mine.
She seems to be getting angrier by the day. I really feel like I should be handling this better after almost 5 months.
She's getting angrier because she is now processing TONS of emotions...she's getting it out. She has to do it. She may have a lot to deal with, as far as her hurt goes. She may continue to get even angrier. I know. I've been dealing with increasing anger on her part for some time now. There's nothing you can do about it...it's part of the healing process for her. Anything and everything you say or do will be wrong! So don't bother...just listen...and take it! Try to feel compassion for yourself and for her. You have to appreciate how she feels. Don't argue either! It hurts, I know! They need lots of time and lots of compassion to heal.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
I think the main reason for her anger is things are not moving as fast as she wanted. She just realized she cant buy a house until our present one sells. We only converse by text. She wants it that way. if we do talk I usually end up engaging her in R talk and I dont know why I do that, because no good ever becomes of it.
Don't worry about the anger. It's all par for the course. They all feel it. My W was so angry she was going to call the cops on me when I asked her how she felt. CRAZY!
Have you written any goals down? You say that you've read DR, but reading and applying are two different things. What is your list of solution oriented goals?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
my biggest goal is trying to get my emotions together for me and my kids, and to stop worrying about her and what she is doing. But I am finding that incredibly hard to do, we were a very active family and did everything together, I really feel like I am backtracking in my emotional state this last week.
